Hands on Help - Personal
group magazine: November-December, 1996
From: GROUP Magazine's November/December 1996 issue
Keywords: Personal, Creative Differences, Radical Love
Writing in Psychology Today, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, the author of Creativity, says people who've made important creative contributions often have personalities with these opposing traits:
1. High energy/Frequent periods of rest-Creative people control their energy; they aren't ruled by the clock. Periods of intense activity alternate with periods of idleness and reflection.
2. Smart/Naive-General intelligence is high among creative achievers, but a certain childishness or immaturity usually goes hand in hand with wisdom.
3. Responsibility/Irresponsibility-A lighthearted playfulness combines with qualities of perseverance and endurance.
4. Strong imagination/Strong sense of reality-A great creative idea combines fantasy with truth and eventually expands our society's view of reality.
5. Extroverted/Introverted-Unlike most other people, creative individuals seem to exhibit both these traits simultaneously.
6. Humble/Proud-Pride in their own achievements is tempered by awareness of the contributions made by others, the role of luck, and a focus on future projects.
7. Masculine/Feminine-Creative people are more likely to have the psychological strengths of not only their own gender, but those of the opposite one, too.
8. Rebellious/Conservative-They're willing to take risks without total disregard for the values of tradition.
9. Passionate/Objective-Passion motivates creative people to stick with difficult tasks; detachment allows them to accept criticism and response.
10. Suffering/Enjoyment-Creative people may experience pain and isolation because of their sensitivity, but the creative process itself brings them joy.
What does it take to build a strong marriage based on biblical principles? "Radical love," says Bill Bright, writing in New Man magazine. Here's his description: Radical love is...
*Sacrificial-Christ is the model for radical love. Personal preferences, desires, rights, and ambitions are yielded for the sake of the spouse.
*Considerate-It expresses respect in both significant and small ways.
*Encouraging-Radical love values growth, not dependency.
*Proactive-It loves first, just as God loved us first. Radical love never hesitates to take the first step toward reconciliation.
If "getting organized" tops your list of New Year's resolutions, use these tips from Leader's Digest to attack those stacks of paper you've accumulated. As you sort through, ask yourself these questions:
*Have I used this in the past year?
*What will happen if I don't keep it?
*Does it help my goals, job, family?
*Is it irreplaceable?
Toss anything that gets a "no" or "nothing" answer.
The true sacrament is holy personality.